In our hierarchy of needs, food is right up there at the top, along with water, warmth and rest, coming above security and safety, hence why it is so important to us.
Food should give us nourishment - so we need food, but sometimes we don’t make it our friend.
It is a good idea to look at what has led you to have the relationship you do with food. Our relationship with food is a complex one, and we are the only species to eat emotionally.
We understand the frustration of failure when it comes to weight loss. How many times have we committed to doing 'another diet'...as soon as you put yourself on a diet you feel like you are being punished....diet is actually just the word for food...diet is what we eat...if we didn't have a diet, we would be dead. It is a mind-set of how we see food and the right diet that is needed.
The weight loss industry thrives on packaging up diets but if we just saw food as food not something to bargain with...we could just enjoy it.
Yes, the simple physiological reason we put on weight is because we eat too much of the wrong things - but if you can be sure that if you’re struggling and failing to control your weight on an ongoing basis, the reason has nothing to do with physiology and everything to do with psychology.
For many people, food is the ‘drug’ they choose to fight an internal battle – one which involves subconscious issues.
Eating can be a place of comfort where some of us choose to hide from something we find emotionally too hard to deal with head-on.
So whether you are comfort eating, emotional eating - if you want to lose weight but find it difficult to stop overeating, then you are usually subconsciously compensating for something else
Indeed, most of our clients’ weight problems emanate from the fact that they eat when they are bored, lonely, miserable, stressed, angry or any number of other emotional scenarios, NONE of which have anything to do with physical hunger.
It is a sad fact that as a result of our conditioning from birth, we all have a propensity to bury our feelings in food, but if we eat because of emotional hunger, our bodies will never feel satisfied because no amount of food is going to change the way we feel – indeed ultimately, it will only end up making us feel worse.
Helping you to revert to where food, whilst still being enjoyed, holds little emotional value beyond being fuel for the body.
This is something we work on - helping you to identify what that something else is and then deal with it permanently.
For many, the consumption of food forms a system of personal reward. We ‘earn’ that chocolate bar, or biscuit or packet of crisps. Yet that too is simply an excuse we use to mask the real feelings.
This ‘earned’ reward is working on the mechanics/pathway as any drug.....our motivation and reward system that we all have in us.
In our sessions we will work with you to disrupt that negative reward structure and instead help you to find a way of resolving whatever is leading you to make the eating decisions you do.
Our conscious relationship with food naturally starts when we are children. Once we get beyond the stage of accepting food as necessary fuel and we begin to make choices about the foods we do and don’t like, we are exposed to all manner of messages and instructions about the food choices we make.
Food becomes inextricably linked to how we feel – or how we are sometimes made to feel – about ourselves. If we’re lucky, that results in a positive relationship with what we eat. But in a great many cases the reverse is true and we find ourselves on the slippery slope of fluctuating weight and yo-yo dieting that masks underlying emotional issues we’re trying to ignore or avoid.
The feelings we’re trying to calm or avoid are rarely recognised but are instead experienced as an illogical and subconscious need to eat even when not hungry. Our emotional need to eat is also strengthened by stress or boredom.
Each cycle of weight loss followed by exponentially increased weight gain can become progressively worse and the simple fact is that if it hasn’t changed on its own by now, it’s unlikely to in the future and it’s time to do something about it.
Our sessions use techniques to break the destructive cycle and instead allow you to clear the psychological issues in order to move on.
So take the decision to intervene in your own relationship with food and instead create a healthy lifestyle where you can enjoy food and get the body you desire at long last!